Thursday, October 15, 2009

SAHM vs Working Moms on Dr. Phil

I usually don't catch Dr. Phil. 5:00pm is a busy time of athletic practices, HW and supper, but we are on fall break and I actually turned the TV on. All I can say is ...WOW! Having been both a SAHM and a working mom I think there is a much larger issue here:

Why are we so upset over this???

I have a single thoughtful idea. We are all working at the most difficult job in the world...MOTHERHOOD. We are (deep deep deep inside) afraid that we are doing a bad job and that someone else is doing a better job and that our kids will suffer because of it. This FEAR, this GUILT will drive us to do or think most anything to defend our decisions and choices even to where we are willing to tear down other (struggling) moms.

This is the same underlying reason that moms are willing to go to war over who breastfed their children until they were one, had natural childbirth, feeds their kids the healthiest foods.

We want to believe that if our kids are successful, healthy and happy that it was all because of our wonderful parenting so that we can shed off some of that FEAR and GUILT. But alas, we discover that it never really goes away.

God alone can remove these life destroyers called FEAR and GUILT and allow us to more fully love others!

1 comment:

Carennedy said...

It drives me nuts to hear when other people scream that their way is the only way and the other way is wrong. I think you're on the right track with the fear angle. "If they are wrong then I must be right" attitude.